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Old 12-13-2012, 11:50 PM
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need a little advice

I have a sister whom I have never met and today I recieved an Email from one of my other sisters that the one I have never met has terminal cancer. When I found our father and found out about my other siblings from his second marriage she decided that we were'nt related. Now I don't know whether or not to contact her before she dies. What would you do?
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Old 12-13-2012, 11:52 PM
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I would contact her, that way at least all the questions can be answered and the doubts put to rest. If you don't you will be plagued by what if questions for the rest of your life.
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Old 12-13-2012, 11:59 PM
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contact her, but don't expect much. you'll feel better whether or not she appreciates it or not
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Old 12-14-2012, 12:36 AM
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Thanks guys. I sent her a short Email and really don't know how she will respond. I would hope hope that after all of these years that things will be different.
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Old 12-14-2012, 09:48 AM
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brutal,... you did the right thing by contacting her,.. no matter the outcome,..
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My biggest regrets are when I felt I should do something and I didn't. I think you did the right thing
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Old 12-14-2012, 02:11 PM
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I heard from Mary today and looks like we will be keeping contact. Thanks for all of the support.
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Old 12-15-2012, 07:20 PM
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How could that possibly be the wrong thing to do. We don't choose our parents nor the circumstances they heap upon us . However we can choose what we do about them and no one has the right to tell us otherwise. You did the right thing. If she is a good person worth knowing she will welcome you at the difficult time in her life. I know the older I get the more regrets I have and you don't get many do overs in life. My wife had a brother she hadn't seen in 30 years. they were separated when he was five and she was 12. I convinced her to get in touch with him. She did and they have been close for the last 30 years. 30 yrs she would never have had if she had chosen otherwise.
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Old 12-16-2012, 01:10 PM
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Thanks. I know that I did the right thing. I would have had to live with all of the regrets and what ifs if I had never located my father. I only had one year with him in my life and am glad that I knew him during that time. It gave me peace within my heart and so this will too.I can only hope that it will her peace too.
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